Her Brother Wanted to Reverse His Vasectomy and Have a Baby with His Unemployed Wife, but They Both Expected Her to Look After It

A woman recently went online to ask if she could have handled a sensitive disagreement with her brother better. Here’s her story.

They’d helped her out

Photo Credit: traveliving/Shutterstock.

“I live with my 32-year-old brother and his wife,” the 33-year-old began. “Things have been fine to a point, and I definitely appreciate them taking me in during my time of need.”

Her sister-in-law was broody

Emotional Labor
Photo Credit: Shutterstock.

“I recognize they did not have to help me, and I’m incredibly thankful. But my sister-in-law has baby fever and is talking about trying to get pregnant.”

There was a problem

Jealousy
Photo Credit: Shutterstock.

The woman explained that this was problematic because her brother had a vasectomy after divorcing his first wife. He could have the procedure reversed, but his medical insurance didn’t cover it.

They had little money

Photo Credit: Bjoern Wylezich/Shutterstock.

Not only that, but the woman also knew that her brother and his wife were struggling financially—they couldn’t fund the operation themselves. Her sister-in-law doesn’t work, and her brother has to pay lots in child support every month, leaving the woman paying two-thirds of the household bills.

She did all the work

Photo Credit: PeopleImages.com – Yuri A/Shutterstock.

The woman revealed that her sister-in-law’s lifestyle left little to be desired. She spent most of her days sleeping; she didn’t cook or clean, and she barely took care of her own six-year-old daughter. On top of covering the bills and working a 45-hour week, the woman felt like a housemaid and nanny.

Her sister-in-law had lost one child

Photo Credit: Shutterstock.

If that wasn’t bad enough, her sister-in-law had already lost custody of her oldest child, an 11-year-old son, who claimed he was abused. The woman said his mother didn’t fight to keep him.

They argued

Photo Credit: Shutterstock.

The woman’s brother told her that he’d booked an appointment to discuss reversing his vasectomy. The woman told him that he was out of his mind. A heated argument followed, during which the woman asked who would be looking after this new baby when her sister-in-law did practically nothing to care for the one she still had.

The answer stunned her.

It was an entitled assumption

Photo Credit: Roman Samborskyi/Shutterstock.

Her jaw dropped when her sister-in-law said, “I thought you could handle them when you get off work and before your brother gets home, so the load is evenly distributed.”

She threatened them

parking
Photo Credit: Shutterstock.

The woman blew up and told them that if they had another child, she would disown both of them and make sure her family disowned her lazy sister-in-law too. Hearing this, her sister-in-law started crying and locked herself in her bedroom

He retaliated

banned
Photo Credit: Shutterstock.

The woman and her brother continued arguing, and he threatened to kick her out of the house.

Was she wrong?

Photo Credit: ESB Professional/Shutterstock.

The woman felt bad for getting so angry with them, but she wasn’t going to be taken advantage of any more. Her mom backed her, but her dad told her it was none of her business. She asked the online community for their thoughts.

The internet responded

Posting Everything About Your Personal Business and Drama on Social Media
Photo Credit: Shutterstock.

The internet backed the woman. “Your dad’s right; it shouldn’t be your business, but they made it that way by including you in their childcare plans. If your sister-in-law wants another child so badly, why not work at getting back the child she already has and lost custody of?

“This is an absolute disaster of a situation,” said another. “Honestly, living with them, doing all the work for them, and paying the majority of the rent is just straight-up enabling at this point.”

READ MORE – A Young Woman Kept Being Harassed By An Older Man On Her Flight, But When She Ignored Him, Things Turned Ugly

Photo Credit: file404 /Shutterstock.

A woman recently asked for advice about a situation involving another passenger on a plane. The passenger said that he was autistic, and he kept trying to speak to the woman. When she ignored his persistent advances, he blew up at her. Was she right to ignore him? Here’s what she had to say:

A Young Woman Kept Being Harassed By An Older Man On Her Flight, But When She Ignored Him, Things Turned Ugly

A Woman Flying First Class Refused To Move After Entitled Parents Demanded That She Switch Seats With Their Son, But She Was Shamed For Her Choice

Photo Credit: Krakenimages.com/Shutterstock.

A woman recently asked for guidance concerning a situation aboard a first-class flight. She had never flown first class before and was excited to do so. So, when the flight attendant asked her to take a downgrade so that a child could sit with his parents, she refused to budge. Was she right to stand her ground? Here’s what she had to say:

A Woman Flying First Class Refused To Move After Entitled Parents Demanded That She Switch Seats With Their Son, But She Was Shamed For Her Choice

Her Parent’s Told her She Couldn’t Buy Her Grandparents’ Home, But Then She Went Behind Their Backs and Did it Anyway

Photo Credit: Kues /Shutterstock.

A woman recently purchased her grandparents’ old farmstead despite her parents telling her she was too irresponsible for the property. When her father found out, he accused his daughter of betrayal and threatened to disinherit her. Here’s what happened.

Her Parent’s Told her She Couldn’t Buy Her Grandparents’ Home, But Then She Went Behind Their Backs and Did it Anyway

His Mom Threatened to Take His Wife to Court When She Told Her They Were Moving, And His Reaction Put Him in the Dog House

Photo Credit: Ollyy /Shutterstock.

A man recently found himself in the middle of a conflict between his wife and his mother. His wife had a job opportunity in another city, which meant they and their children would need to move. His mother was inconsolable over the loss of her grandchildren, and a major fight ensued, with the man forced to pick sides. Here’s what he had to say.

His Mom Threatened to Take His Wife to Court When She Told Her They Were Moving, And His Reaction Put Him in the Dog House

This Couple Refused to Serve Alcohol at Their Wedding but Were Shocked when All of Their Friends Left Early

Photo Credit: MDV Edwards/Shutterstock.

A man recently had an argument with his coworkers and his in-laws after he was coerced into having a dry wedding which caused most of the guests to leave early. Here is what he had to say.

This Couple Refused to Serve Alcohol at Their Wedding but Were Shocked when All of Their Friends Left Early