His Vile Co-Worker Was a Homophobic Bully, but When He Finally Stood Up to Him, He Found Himself Accused of Making His Co-Worker Feel “Unsafe”

A gay man recently asked whether he’d been wrong to lose his temper when a homophobic co-worker made one vile comment too many. Here’s his story.

He was out and proud

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“I am happily in a same-sex relationship,” the 27-year-old began. “While most of my coworkers are supportive, there’s this one guy who’s been giving me a hard time.”

His co-worker was horrible

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“His homophobic comments and nasty looks have turned my workplace into a less-than-welcoming environment.”

His boyfriend visited

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The previous day, the man’s boyfriend had swung by his office so that they could have lunch together.

His co-worker stared

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The man explained how this initially pleasant break had soon taken a very uncomfortable turn. He said that his co-worker was also in the room and spent the entire time glaring at them.

But worse was to come.

His co-worker made a vile remark

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As the man’s co-worker left, he made a brazenly homophobic remark that left both the man and his boyfriend stunned. The man saw his boyfriend tense up, and he felt terrible that he’d had to experience that kind of abuse in what was meant to be a safe, welcoming space.

They argued

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It was the final straw for the man. He confronted his bigoted co-worker, telling him that his comments and attitude were hurtful and unnecessary. This led to a heated argument.

He called him out

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The man became increasingly incensed, and he ultimately cussed his co-worker in public, telling him he must be a sad and lonely piece of trash to act the way he did. He also said that if he made any more comments, then HR would be informed.

His co-worker turned the tables

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By the end of the day, word had gotten around the workplace that the homophobic guy was claiming that he had been the victim of an aggressive attack and had been made to feel unsafe.

HR were investigating

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HR had indeed become involved, but while the man had the backing of some of his more enlightened co-workers, the outcome of their investigation was uncertain.

What should he have done?

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The man said that the tension in the office was palpable. He felt like his actions had put his job in jeopardy too. He asked the online community if he should have just let his co-worker’s homophobia slide.

The internet responded

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The internet backed the man but said his reaction played into his co-worker’s hands. “The only mistake you made was not going to HR when he made his very first homophobic action,” said one. “You gave a cowardly liar a chance to lie.”

“I know that hindsight is 20/20, but your heated, emotional response was inappropriate in the workplace, and now you’ve given him ammunition,” said another. “Unfortunately, HR tends to lend more credibility to the first complaint, and you gave him a reason to make it.”

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