This Man Pressured His Partner to Use Her Wedding Gift from Her Family to Pay Off His Debts But She Doesn’t Want to

A woman recently got a lot of money from her mom and dad when she got engaged. Her future husband wants her to use some of this money to clear his debts but does he have the right to ask?

The Woman Wasn’t Sure if It Was a Good Idea

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She said, no way. But now she’s wondering if she should help him, so they can both start debt-free married life.

Here’s what she had to say.

She Already Spent Some of The Money

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“I have used some of the money to pay for unexpected expenses (medical treatment and car repair), and he is now asking if he can use the money to pay his debt,” shared the woman.

Her Fiancé Has Been Careless with His Money

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She’s not against the idea in theory, although they had already agreed to keep their finances separate. But her fiancé got himself into this mess himself, and he’s been letting it slide ever since.

He’s Always Been in Debt

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“My fiancé is not good with money and has been avoiding paying off his debts since I met him. In all, it is about $6,000. It was $2,000 when we met,” said the woman. 

“He chooses not to work as much as he could and took several weeks off recently because of a move when he only needed maybe one week.”

He’s Saying It’s “only Fair” that She Uses Some of The Money to Help Him

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However, it looks like this guy doesn’t know what the word “fair” really means.

“I end up paying for most stuff, even though he always says he will get it next time. Groceries, utilities, pet food, etc. He pays maybe 1/3 of our expenses at most,” the woman said. 

He Also Doesn’t Try to Get a Better Job

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“He also chooses to stay at a lower-paying job, even though he has the opportunity to apply for significantly better ones.”

And while he’s ‘responsible’ enough to pay the minimum on his monthly credit bill, he spends most of his disposable income on cigarettes, DoorDash delivery, and weed.

The Woman Is Fed Up

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“I feel like I’m carrying him,” confesses the woman.

She wants to use the money for a down payment on a house, but he insists it should go toward clearing his personal debts.

The Situation Is Creating a Lot of Tension Between the Couple

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She knows that paying off the debt would help him get ahead. But would he stay ahead?

She’s worried that her generosity would kill off his last bits of motivation and set an unhealthy example for their marriage, as she’d always be there to bail him out.

She Doesn’t Think It’s Fair

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“I told him that if his parents or family members give us money, he can use that for his debt, but the money from my family will go towards our future,” said the woman.

Is She Being Selfish?

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At the moment, she has zero plans to pay his debt. Still, she has a nagging feeling of being too controlling and selfish.

So she asked the internet for their thoughts. 

People Responded

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Hundreds of people responded, and literally, everyone was on her side. And more than a few users had some pretty harsh things to say about the fiancé.

“Red flags all over the place,” advised another. “Guy sounds like a scrub. Reconsider your future with him, seriously.”

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